100%. I heard “you’ve been a good wife, I don’t know why I’m unhappy.”
But also when unmet needs were stated as complaints and I asked why I had never heard these before they said that I simply was not “intuitive” enough to realize they were unhappy. I also heard “I did things our whole marriage that I didn’t want to do.” But when I pressed for examples, they seemed unable to mention one.
Excellent insights into a much too common problem. Coping can also leads to substance abuse. So most drunks are codependent. In finding sobriety, we also must deal with codependency. Healing is possible, and well worth the effort.
100%. I heard “you’ve been a good wife, I don’t know why I’m unhappy.”
But also when unmet needs were stated as complaints and I asked why I had never heard these before they said that I simply was not “intuitive” enough to realize they were unhappy. I also heard “I did things our whole marriage that I didn’t want to do.” But when I pressed for examples, they seemed unable to mention one.
Sounds like my ex-AP AND his wife.
Excellent insights into a much too common problem. Coping can also leads to substance abuse. So most drunks are codependent. In finding sobriety, we also must deal with codependency. Healing is possible, and well worth the effort.